My Garden Gnome

1538697249“What’s that?” I asked my wife.

What sounded like a simple question was neither simple nor a question.

“A gnome,” she told me, knowing full well that I knew what it was.

“What is it doing at the end of our driveway?”

She peered over my shoulder.

“Not much.”

“And where did it come from?”

“Shopko.”

That’s our local big-box discount store. They are holding their annual WINTER IS COMING sale and apparently the mark downs on yard schlock were too much to pass up.

“Well, get it out of there,” I growled.

My reaction startled her.

To be honest it startled me too.

“It’s just a gnome,” she said softly.

A guy has to draw the line somewhere – and I drew the red line of death on this side of that gnome.

Personally, I have nothing against them, though I am not sure what their appeal is. Some people like them and some people hate them, and something about them tends to bring out tribal passions over what is considered good taste.

If I were to say anything good about them it would be that they bring the promise of magic to a world that desperately needs it.

While that may be so, this particular gnome was fashioned out of concrete which made him the natural enemy of my zero-turn lawnmower.

But that is not why I growled.

The gnome touched a sore spot in our relationship; one that I thought was healed long ago.

It was the subject of our first serious conflict.

Soon after she moved in with me, perhaps to make the place a little of her own, my wife hung a cross-stitched quote on my living room wall.

It was a small piece, about three inches by three inches, so it didn’t take up much space or occupy a position of prominence – but it was frilly and homespun and didn’t fit in with the prevailing guy-theme of the room.

So I objected and she cried.

It was one of those times when you know you are dead wrong but are too stubborn to admit it.

The fight had nothing to do with décor and we both knew that. It was about the trajectory of the rest of our lives. As soon as that cross-stitch went up, I feared what would follow and my sense was correct.

Her decorating progressed from room to room until all that remained of the house that once reflected my tastes was a man-cave downstairs where I could go to brood and write.

But in the end, even though everything I feared turned out to be true, I was wrong to fear it.

Over time I became comfortable in the home that she made and we struck a compromise,  while the indoors was relegated to her, the outdoors remained ours. She had her gardens and I had my lawn and everything visible from the road was deemed to be neutral territory.

Now, the presence of the yard gnome threatened to upset the delicate balance of what belonged to whom and stir up ancient conflicts.

“I can’t understand why you are so mad.” she said.

“Have you any idea how much grief I am going to get over that gnome at the end of our driveway?” I asked her.

“Why would you get grief?”

How can I explain? As a rural girl, she should know these things. Every guy in this region has gone through exactly what I have gone through – and every one of them is loath to admit it, so any visible sign of domestic compromise is dealt with harshly.

“Okay then, where should I put him?” she asked.

“Behind the tree,” I told her.

It is now where he hides.

But not entirely, she placed him facing the road and from behind the gnarled roots of our old oak tree, he peers out with the corner of one eye on the pickups and combines that roar and rumble by… unaware that they are being watched.

Author: Almost Iowa

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47 thoughts on “My Garden Gnome”

  1. Haha! At least you admit it Greg. No offense to gnome fans, but I find them slightly creepy. Not as creepy as monkeys, mind you, but just the same… A hiding gnome would be worse than one in the open. o_O Happy weekend hugs.

  2. When I was much younger I remember going to a Disney movie called “The Gnome Mobile”, forever setting my notion that gnomes belong hidden in forests. It appears you’ve found the proper place for your gnome.

  3. What a great compromise! The gnome can see and yet not be seen. And the conflict between you and your wife is indeed universal. Ours started over my husband’s velvet tapestry of dogs playing poker. Which I know he bought at a gas station, because I watched him buy it. At the time we were just dating so he hung it in his living room. Then we got married and I moved in, and the velvet dogs moved out……

    1. Ooooooo…. dogs playing poker. One of my all time favorites. Scooter likes it too and though he is willing to play poker with me, he simply refuses to play by the rules. Perhaps it is why Stan and him get along so well.

    1. I could only think of one thing that my buddies down at The Pit would consider worse: pulling into the parking lot in a Chevy truck. Let’s just say brand loyalty is the only thing that rivals the tribal passions that one associates with yard gnomes.

  4. I have slowly begun morphing our home into antiques 🙂 My husband doesn’t seem to mind… so far. Luckily we’re on the same page with gnomes – better keep your eye on that little guy!

  5. When I had my gardening business, if I pulled up outside a new clients house, I could predict what type of gardener they would be, and how long I’d bother with them if there were gnomes everywhere.
    That is unless they were being used to make a political statement.
    Has your wife given a name to it?

  6. Garden gnomes traditionally (at least in my part of the world) get stolen and get stolen back etc. You could perhaps pay your friend Stanley to begin the process… But be careful – sometimes gnomes return as pink flamingos.

  7. Haha! I like the compromise – otherwise you could have been packing your bags for Nome, Alaska, Greg. I wanted a gazing ball and a fairy house in our back yard but my husband muttered something about turning all the yard work over to me, and I lost my enthusiasm. Meanwhile I’m working on some cross stitch…

    1. but my husband muttered something about turning all the yard work over to me

      I tried that once.

      ME: Okay then, if that is the way you want it, you can do the yard work!
      SHE: Goody… hand over the keys to your zero-turn lawn mower.
      ME: Huh? Anyone ever tell you that you fight dirty.

  8. Anything made of concrete belongs at the side of the road or part of it. I too would feel the coldness of fear having that thing on my property. Do your trash haulers pick up heavy stuff?

  9. You did a gnome post! 🙂 This whole territory thing made total sense to me, Greg. I get it, the compromises and the off-limits lines that don’t get crossed. I have to say that gnomes are better than the plywood schlock that ends up in some yards (you know the ones I mean). Ha ha. Me? I have concrete gargoyles in my garden – but not in the lawn! That wouldn’t go over well. 🙂

  10. I am tempted to find some two inch tops of gnome hats. And place a few throughout the garden. Then when people ask what is that ? I can say ‘I think I planted my gnomes too deep.’

  11. There’s no question that affection or distaste for garden gnomes seems to be written into our DNA: G-nomes, if you will. Personally, I can’t stand the things, but don’t you dare mess with my two-foot tall, rusted, disintegrating metal squirrel.

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